It’s easy to lose yourself while taking care of little humans. I’ve lost my identity plenty of times during this journey. Motherhood is beautiful and magical, but it’s also downright hard. It encompasses the best of times and the worst of times, yet it’s still worth every minute.
In order to survive motherhood, you must continue to show up for yourself.
You matter too, mama. So I put together a list to help make mom life more bearable for you. Here’s my list of things you need to do right now in order to survive motherhood.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Moms
Just don’t do it. Stop it. You will never be like that mom, simply because you are not her. Comparison truly is the thief of joy. Every mom is different and that is the beauty of motherhood. We can only be successful on this journey by being our true authentic selves. You were chosen to parent your child because of who you are. Change what you can, and accept what you can’t. Be yourself.
Ask for Help
I know it’s difficult but ask for help anyway. Call a friend or a loved one and ask them to babysit. You can’t do it all alone. We need help in order to continue. Motherhood is not meant to be traveled alone. Asking for help does not make you weak; it actually makes you a better mama. We all need someone to lean on.
Every day, take time for yourself to do something you enjoy. Fill your own cup. Set boundaries and stick to them. Your kids need their mom to be happy. They need you to take care of yourself so you can take care of them, too. You can’t run on empty. Do whatever it is you need to do to recharge. It will look different every day but even if it’s just 30 minutes or an hour, take some time to yourself.
Be Kind to Other Moms
Put yourself in other moms’ shoes before you judge them. Remember we are all in this together. We are all trying to do the best we can. The last thing another mother needs is your glaring eyes and critical comments. Think about what you would need in a moment of weakness and then speak. We are all struggling with something. Just be kind.
Shower Your Kids with Affection
We only have so long with our kids before they have to face the world alone. The world can be cruel. Love your children. Give them a safe space to be themselves. Be their biggest cheerleader. Be there when they need you, and be there just in case. Hug them long. Kiss them gently. Encourage them daily. Love them unconditionally.