Making friends was a lot easier when I was a kid. I didn’t have to think about it. I just naturally made friends. Now as an adult everything is different. Then add kids into the mix and it just seems impossible. And now we are dealing with a pandemic… I mean the odds are definitely not in my favor.
Is anyone else having this experience as a mama trying to make new friends?
It seems like the older I get, the harder it is to make friends. I get it. We are all busy especially with all the many hats we wear as moms. We have our own families. We all have routines. Most likely we have a set group of friends we’ve made already. New friends? Who has time for them?
I wholeheartedly blame my predicament mostly on this mom life. I’m really not in the season of my life where I can be the friend I truly want to be. I’ve accepted it. I am always tired. I rarely have time to pee let alone accompany someone else, but I still have that desire for companionship.
Let’s get something straight, I do have friends. Really I do, and they are great. However, they all live back home in Indiana. We relocated as a family to a new state, which means I rarely see my family or friends.
I never thought I would be the person that says this, but I actually met a lot of people online last year via social media. Those relationships actually blossomed naturally and I can’t wait to be able to connect with people in safe spaces again.
What has helped me is FaceTime, though. I’ve been able to do movie nights and catch up with my girlfriends back home once a month. Although I would rather be in the same room with them, those virtual meetings mean the world to me and I look forward to them. Although “hanging out” looks a lot different for this mom these days, I am grateful for the technology that still allows us to connect in different ways.