When we adopted our 5-year-old, we met his sweet, courageous birth momma and began a beautiful relationship with her. At the time of his birth and while we were in the adoption process, we didn’t really ask much about the birth father; we just knew it was unknown.
That satisfied us for the time being, but I always wanted to know who you were.
As our son grew and hit milestones and didn’t hit others, I wondered if you were the same. Did you struggle where he did, did you excel where he excels?
I began to have more and more questions. I always wanted to know who you were.
Our sweet, courageous birth momma would answer questions as to who his birth father might be and offered to help us find him. She gave us some names and even though I felt like I was ready to find you, I was too scared to start the search. Our birth momma was trying to get healthy and get on the right path and that seemed a better place to put my prayers and energy than finding you.
Time went by and I wondered, did you know you had a son? Did you have any idea what a gift he is to our family? I always wanted to know who you were.
Our son was facing surgery and I wanted to know about your family history and your allergies, etc. So I did what any normal woman does in this day and age and went to the internet to search the possibilities of who you could be. Taking the possible names, my search ended with the faces of two men.
I had two solid leads, but when I saw a picture of you, I thought I had found who you were.
I contacted you and told you who I was (I was so nervous) and asked if I sent you a DNA test, would you take it and have the results sent to me?
Just a few short weeks later, the results were in.
I finally had the answers I wanted and your son needed; you indeed were the birth father of our son.
In the days that followed, when we shared the information with you, I was struck by your thankfulness. You were so grateful and wanted to know everything you could about your son. You couldn’t believe you were a father; you had never been a father before.
We made a plan to meet and eat pizza together shortly after Christmas and what an amazing time we had introducing you to your son. He has your smile, he has the same shape face you have and you look so much alike. I am so glad we know who you are.
Your texts are so thoughtful and the gifts you send your son are so sweet. You continually tell us how thankful you are that you have a son and know him and have him in your life – we are so thankful, too.
Celebrating your son’s birthday together this year and celebrating your first Father’s Day were amazing memories to make together. You are our son’s birth father and we are so glad we know who you are.
