Do you ever feel like you are juggling all responsibilities on a daily basis and on the verge of dropping one or all balls? This is me on a daily basis. Many Moms have to juggle kids, a career, a marriage/relationship, personal commitments, family commitments and much more.
So many moms have lots of guilt on how they spend their time. If they are at work, they are guilty they aren’t at home with their children. If they are at home, they are guilty of not working towards career advancement or contributing to a team effort at their place of employment. If they are enjoying a night out with the husband, they are guilty of not spending time with Grandma and Grandpa who have expressed they have missed quality family time. If they are at one child’s soccer game, they are guilty of missing the other child’s football game. Moms have to juggle and it can be hard!
I’m not perfect and I still need to find a better balance. However, I have learned a few things over the years.
:: Here are my tips on juggling all things mom ::
- Stop Beating Yourself Up
Why are we so hard on ourselves?!!? Its ok! Whatever happens will happen and it will be ok. Be confident! Go with your gut and don’t second guess yourself. Your child loves you unconditionally!
- Accept Your Situation
If you have to work or are choosing to work, accept it. Your kids will see your work ethic and you are setting a good example for them. If you are choosing to stay home, embrace your time with your kids. I’m fortunate that I have the privilege of working part-time and spending more days at home than at work. When I worked full-time, I was unable to juggle and balls dropped all the time! Now that I’m working part-time, I still juggle but a little more efficiently. Of course, I’m not suggesting that working part-time is for every Mama… this is just my experience.
- Say No Sometimes
Without apologies, explanations, or guilt, moms feel free to decline requests that infringe on your family time. Understand that saying yes to one thing means saying no to something else. Such as a meaningful conversation with your husband, playing a game with your children, or catching up on laundry.
- Say Yes When Offered Help
Even Superheroes accept help! Moms are only human, and you know it. If Grandma offers to help with laundry, take her up on it. If your neighbor offers to babysit, say yes.
- Think of Yourself Equally as a: mother, worker, wife, you
You are one person, indivisible, who just happens to wear many hats. Its nearly impossible to divide time equally and it’s unrealistic to set this expectation for yourself. Make what time you have, quality time, and worry less about quantity.
Can you add additional tips to this mix?
