Surviving Sleep With A Snorer

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Snoring is nothing new to me, I grew up with a Dad who could saw logs like nobody’s business. Honestly, I didn’t think twice the first time I heard my husband snore. I had slept through it for years growing up. But what I failed to realize is that when a spouse snores, they are snoring directly into your eardrums. And for some reason, they never actually think they are snoring.

So here are some tips I’ve learned over the years to make life a little more bearable if you are sleeping next to a snorer.

Try to make yourself a heavy sleeper. A majority of the time I can sleep through the snores. Admittedly, I also have slept through jets taking off over top of a tent while camping, so I might be pretty good at blocking out loud noises while I sleep. But to give you an idea of just how loud the snoring is, when we go on big family vacations, no one wants to sleep in the same house. Our biggest problem is when he falls asleep before me. I’m pretty much guaranteed to never fall asleep. These are the nights I huff and puff while begrudgingly dragging my pillow and a blanket out to the couch and silently planning his demise.

Don’t tell them they’re snoring. Seriously. My tactics in early marriage were kind and consisted of gentle nudges and “Darling, you’re snoring” that would immediately result in “I’m not even asleep!” and a swift turn over to face away from me promptly followed by continuing snores. I tried kicking the bed to “accidentally” wake him up. I tried sneakily stuffing pillows under his head to prop him up. I even tried plugging his nose in a very desperate attempt during my first pregnancy. Don’t do that, it will definitely make your spouse incredibly angry for a very long time. Leave them be because nothing will make that horrible noise stop and no use having two people get no sleep.

Go sleep somewhere else. Don’t waste your time trying to tell them they are snoring. They won’t believe it or will tell you they were never sleeping in the first place. Is it possible to snore without sleeping? Pretty sure that’s a no. I’ve even recorded him snoring to prove it. Still didn’t believe me. It’s better to just remove yourself from the vicinity before you find yourself looking for a pillow to smother your snoring partner just to get a little bit of peace and quiet. Laying there dissecting every gurgle and snort will make you go insane. I mean, why does it sound like he’s literally gargling sometimes?

Lastly, figure out what works best for both you and your snorer. In all honesty, snoring can definitely take a toll on a relationship, especially in those sleep-deprived years of newborns and young children. If wearing earplugs or sleeping in separate rooms make you resent them less, do it! If you think there is an underlying medical condition, encourage them to get it checked out. My snorer doesn’t always snore, so I try to take note of the exact angle and position of every body part because you better believe I will be forcing him to try and sleep in that exact position every. single. night.

Does your partner snore? How do you cope?

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Katie
Hi! I’m Katie, boy mama to 3, wife of a picky eater, photographer, business owner, and food lover. My husband and I both grew up in the Dayton area but moved away for college. We quickly found ourselves back in Dayton after having our first baby. I never really thought I’d end up back in Dayton but we soon realized how much we wanted to be close to our families after starting our own! I love exploring local restaurants and shops all around Dayton and you’ll probably see me snapping photos to share on Instagram @eatprettydarling!

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  1. Snoring can be a sign of a very serious condition called sleep apnea which can have all sorts of side effects – exhaustion, high blood pressure, heart problems…
    Please, if your spouse snores heavily, make a recording if you need to, but somehow convince them to see a Dr. and get a sleep study done. It could, seriously, save their life (AND your sanity)!

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